Biased advices, the lesson of 2016

As a little summary:2016 has been the year where so many people around me has lost their close friends, family or the year where so many great historic people has died.
I remember talking to my mother after Alan Rickman passed how horrible it was, and discussing the events of death of David Bowie.
Then a few weeks later my mother dies (around 3am, 5th october), and then 2 months later we lose Carrie Fisher.
I know of family who’s been out and in of hospitals and one of my best friends lost his beloved dog a month ago who’s been with them for years.
I think year 2016 has been the most influenced year of them all (at least speaking from my own point of view). Its been the year of change.

The biggest lesson ever was the lesson to take in criticism and to be the one responsible for picking out which advices are biased and which arent.
– You choose which opinions that matters and which doesn’t, and the same goes for ‘useful advices’ from people.
People can spend years just doing what other people tells them to do and whats smart, which is a good way of avoiding to make mistakes. However you learn nadda by living after other peoples words.
I think choosing between which advices to take in and which is not going to make you grow is the hardest part in life.
Sometimes we need to look into ourselves and realise our mistakes, sometimes we NEED people to point out things.
But there’s also the times where people can point out things which remains biased.
Only you know how you work, you know when you need a break and you know your limits.
Being afraid of what others might think of you gets you nowhere.
Be open for self improvement, but remember there’s so many opinions out there and you’re OK to disagree with them too.
Your self value is not measured in other peoples views of things.
But be smart, and know when the opinions matters and when they dont!

Oslo has so much weird stuff

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There is a curse in our capital city, Oslo, where as if you come to Norway and don’t bring along a sacrificial gift to the norwegians, preferably tacos, you’ll be stoned (literally).
There’s a odd place called Vigelandsparken/Frogner park featuring tons of stone-humans doing strange things to their kids.

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This is one of the big on the sightseeing list. I’ve only been there once (a year ago) and also that’s when I took these photos.
I spent alot of time taking shots for ideas, but ended up too facinated of the stone-dicks everywhere that I lost track of what I was doing(!) Anyway, let’s just take a look at these statues…
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I didn’t enter the entire place, I walked around, you start walking down a brigde of figurines. I can imagine this is a pretty cool place to get married, if you don’t mind naked people into the wedding.
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The top photo is the weirdest of everything you find in this park. It is a pile of NAKED HUMANS!
Like it wasn’t odd enough seeing the statues of people throwing their kids over their head, this is the cherry of the creamcake.
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Then there’s the most fameous statue of this park: Sinnataggen.
20150406_195505Its definately worth seeing, and i’m sure it looks alot more cool when its not during february or whenever these pictures were taken.

Lgbt webcomics

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Comics is a very powerful tool to use to inform youth, or anyone really, about certain things.
When I was younger I was a member of a club which was actually a feminine hygiene club (for girls who recently hit puberty) which featured a comic strip every month.
Naturally this caught my attention. It didn’t inform you about how lesbians work, but it did show some stereotype gag-strip humour about how women was on their periods (!)
There’s a great increase in LGBT themed comics out today than it was a decade ago, and that’s a good thing.
The LGBT community can never get enough attention, as it is still a on-going fight for equal rights in many places of our world.
One of the first most controvenial come-outs within gay characters in comics was back in 1993 in the comic For better or for Worse, by Lynn Johnston, where the readers didn’t take it so well. We’ve done such a great progress!

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Webcomics is also a new concept, and LGBT webcomics, which is what I want to focus on.

So here’s the big 3 comics which opened the gates to my LGBT comic world:

My first comic was Khaos Komix by Tab Kimpton. The story features 8 teenagers going through their early life towards becoming adults, where as there’s a mix between gay, lesbian, bisexual and trans characters.
I think trans was especially what I taught most about, since I was so unfamiliar with transMEN back in the days.
Tab has alot of other LGBT themed comics, like Shades of A which is taking A-sexuality, androgynious characters and crossdressing to new levels. I am especially thankful for that last comic as asexuals sort of drown out in our society and isn’t often very popular to write about (yet).

My second comic was YUME+Dream by rosalarian, a story of a young girl going to a all girl catholic school and finding the girl of her dreams.
It does also contain a various number of gay characters, and it as it is also a very early comic (one of the first I recall finding when trying to find gay comics) and a very fameous comic too. Rosalarian has later made several other comics which is mostly made with mature readers in mind. I will always remember it as my first portal into the world of gayness, though, so YUME stays special to me.

My third comic was Simply Sarah written by SkyAngel, which was also how I found the Duck webcomic community. The story starts off with a young girl and follows her through the stages of life of becoming an adult, finding true love, dealing with being in love, and what fascinates me the most is how the comic touches all types of genre: detective/mystery, some horror/thriller themes, romance, sexuality, drama… I think it got possibly every genre but it is very tastefully put together. It features a handful of lesbian characters and a transgender lesbian girl. This comic is still ongoing!

BUT….
There’s obviously ALOT of new lgbt comics out there!
The early comics was often focused on coming out, and often the entire story was about how they coped with being gay. There’s a comic called Blue is the warmest color taking place in the early 1990s about two young lesbians meeting each other where as one of them has not come out yet, which is the perfect example of one of these stories, and especially since it is in a time before people got used to the idea.
What is interesting is the new trend of making lgbt characters in stories, but where the main focus is not on their  gender or sexuality. It also normalize it more, and to make the characters be a part of our every day society more than being the plotline of a story.
Not that it is wrong to write a coming out story, but the readers change with time and luckily we’ve evolved alot since the 90’s.

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